the ref was like break that gay shit up (but why? lol)
Part of the reason we get disproportionately excited sometimes is because we tend to “idealize” a person in the very beginning. When you first meet someone who you have a connection with, it’s so easy to get lost in fantasies of how awesome your friendship or relationship might be, but with those fantasies come high expectations, and sometimes those expectations are unrealistic! Make it a point to remind yourself that this new person is human, which means they’re not perfect. They will make mistakes, and you need to be ready to cope and forgive, rather than act shocked that the person dares to be anything but perfect.